1. Do we need to send out Save-the-Date cards, and if so, when should we do so?

No, you are not required to send out save-the-date notices; this is a very new and completely optional step. You can select whether or not to send them to offer your guests advance notice of your wedding date. In general, giving notice six to nine months ahead of time is ideal. If you’re having a destination wedding or expecting a large number of out-of-town guests, you should send out your save-the-dates nine to twelve months ahead of time.

2. How many wedding invitations are you going to need?

It is one per home, not each individual guest. Regardless of whether they still reside at home with their parents, any child above the age of 18 should receive their own invitation. Each roommate receives their own invitation.

3. When should our wedding invitations be ordered?

To guarantee you have enough time to find, compare, order, and assemble the invitations before mailing, start browsing and ordering invites at least 3-6 months before your wedding.

4. What information should our invites contain?

These are the fundamentals: Bride and groom’s names, as well as their parents’ and hosts’ names (optional), Day, Date (including year), Time, Ceremony Location, Address of Ceremony Location, City, and State of Ceremony Location You must provide the Reception information if the Ceremony and Reception are held at the same site. Learn more about wedding invitation wording samples by clicking here.

5. When should our wedding invites be sent?

Invitations are often sent out 6-8 weeks before the wedding, giving guests plenty of time to clear their schedules and make travel plans if they don’t live in the area. Give guests additional time to plan their vacations if the wedding is in a destination, and send invitations out three months in advance.

6. What is the best place to put information about our wedding website?

Your wedding webpage can be included on your save-the-date. If you don’t have save-the-dates, an insert to the wedding invitation ensemble can include the website link. A modest card informing guests that they can find additional information online is appropriate. Do not mention this on your RSVP because guests will be mailing them back to you and will no longer have access to that information.

7. Can we include information about our gift registry on our wedding invitations?

On the wedding invitations, never, ever mention the gift registry (putting the gift registry information is only appropriate for shower invitations). It’s ideal to post this information on your wedding website or distribute it via word of mouth.

8. Can our guests only attend the Ceremony?

When you invite people to your wedding ceremony, you’re also inviting them to the reception. Only invite people to the ceremony but not the reception is disrespectful since it implies, “I want you at the wedding but don’t want to pay for your dinner plate.” On your wedding day, you don’t want to give off that impression!

9. We’re holding a wedding for adults only (no kids). How can we ensure that our guests understand this?

Although there is no right or wrong answer to whether or not to invite children to a wedding, we nevertheless recommend that you never put “No children” or “Adults Only” on your invitation; instead, use other subtle ways to convey this message. When addressing the inside envelopes, just include the name of each person who has been invited; this lets the visitors know who has been invited and who has not. You may fill out the “Number attending” section of the answer card yourself, and all the guests have to do is fill in their name and tick “accepts” or “regrets”…this gives you control over the overall number of people you can invite. You can also enlist the support of your parents or a close family friend to phone those families whose children are listed on the answer card and respectfully inform them that you are holding an adult-only reception.

10. How will we inform our visitors about the dress code?

If you want to specify the appropriate attire for your wedding, write it in the lower right corner of the wedding invitation (in a smaller matching font) and use language that can be easily Googled for more information, such as Black Tie, Black Tie Optional, etc.

11. To whom should we extend a “plus-one” invitation?

Give plus ones to certain single guests, or if someone has been in a serious, committed relationship with someone for a long time, or if you think they don’t know anyone at your wedding and would enjoy it more with a guest.

12. Is it necessary to utilize an inner envelope?

Inner envelopes are slightly smaller and ungummed than the bigger outer envelope (sticky). They aren’t essential, but they may be contested to make it extremely clear who is and isn’t invited. If you don’t care about the inner envelope tradition, you can just use the outer envelope, address it to everyone who is invited, and save your money for other things.

13. On the invitation and envelope, how should we address our guests?

The manner in which you address the invitation is crucial since it reveals who you are truly inviting. Determining the appropriate way to address your wedding invitation envelopes can be difficult, and whether you address both the inner and outside envelopes or only the outer envelope, it takes a lot of thought. Learn more about how to address wedding invitations and the rules by clicking here.

14. When should the RSVP deadline be set?

Set the RSVP deadline for three to four weeks before your wedding day, as most caterers require a final headcount 10 to two weeks before your event. This will allow your guests plenty of time to react once they’ve received the invitation. If some guests haven’t responded by your deadline, phone them and ask for their response so you have all of their information.

15. On wedding invitations, where do you place the return address?

The return address, which is generally the address of whoever is hosting the wedding, is usually placed on the rear flap of the outer envelope for sending. The address on the RSVP return envelope should be that of the person(s) you’ve selected to receive response cards, whether it’s your parents or yourself (traditionally, whoever is hosting the wedding handles response cards). Remember to include the appropriate postage for return mailing in the RSVP envelope.

16. When should bridal shower invitations be sent?

Your shower invites will be mailed directly by the shower’s hosts. The best time to mail these invites is four weeks before the shower.

When should bachelorette party invitations be sent?

The Hostesses of the party will mail your Bachelorette Celebration invites directly to you, and your Maid/Matron of Honor is normally in charge of this party. These invites should be mailed four weeks prior to the party.

18. When should we send invitations to the rehearsal dinner?

The Rehearsal Dinner invites will be mailed directly by the dinner hosts (traditionally the Groom’s parents). Typically, two to three weeks before to the event, these invites should be mailed. A dinner invitation should not be sent to a guest who has rejected to attend the wedding. Before issuing dinner invites, double-check the guest list against their responses to the wedding invitation.

19. When should wedding thank you cards be sent?

Thank you notes should be sent for any presents received during the wedding planning process. Send a thank you card within two to three weeks of the engagement party and shower; for gifts received before to the wedding date, send a card as soon as possible but definitely before the wedding; and for presents given on the wedding day, mail a thank you letter within three months. Learn more about thank you phrase examples by clicking here.


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